Be you

Hi everyone! J

Today I feel like giving some advice, they might not fit you and your situation right know but I hopefully I can help some of you now or in a few years you might remember these thoughts.

The thing, I mean the topic of these post, is happiness, calm down, no I have no magic spell or a perfect formula to achieve it, I do how ever have some tricks that really helped me be happier. I cannot say I’m the happiest person alive but I sure am better than a year ago, I am also not an expert in happiness, but anyways, here is my advice to all of your beautiful souls.

First, if you are not happy with something in your life change it. I know, I know, easier said than done, and don’t get me wrong, it’s REALLY not some easy breezy stuff, it’s hard but helps a lot, believe me! If you are not happy with a person, with your relationship, being a friendship or a more romantic situation, and if you’re sure you’ll be better off without them in your life just cut the strings. I don’t mean immediately stop talking to them or anything, if you see you can’t work things out, if you tried and everything is the same as before, just slowly get some space from them, get some distance. If they miss you and if you’re that important to them eventually they’ll notice it and will do something to get you back, if not, just proves you've made the right decision. If you’re not happy with your diet or your room or your style, change it, you are the only one who can give you true confidence in yourself and open your door for happiness. Be brave and change your life, the things and the persons that surround you influence and can change the way you’re felling, so surround yourself of people that help you and make you happy and things that make you happy.

Other thing you have to learn is to be yourself, know what you like and what you don’t like, what you do and what you don’t do and don’t let people influence you to do things you really don’t want. Not like if you don’t enjoy being out side, never go outside, it’s not that extreme, YOU HAVE TO SOCIALIZE SOMETIMES and be around other thing other than your computer and the internet (for more wonderful that  world is, is not real, or at least, not as real as the real one).

The ultimate idea I want to pass you is that, and I’m going to quote Zoella now, is just say yes, but know how to say no sometimes. I mean don’t lose opportunities just because it’s easier to seat back at home and be alone (I’m not promoting isolation here!) but know when you really don’t want to do something and just don’t do it, or do it the few a few times to see if you've changed and after all enjoy it.

I know these are not easy and quick steps to take, but I believe they help a lot, and always remember to take your time until you feel comfortable enough to take them because if you’re not prepare to cut someone off your life you will go back to them and feel bad again.

And if you think this is a lot of crap and it doesn't work, or just don’t like my ideas, that’s fine, we are all different human being and have different ways to see things. These are some things that helped me, I hope and would be thrilled if they help some or just one of you, but if not I’m really sorry I couldn't help.

Talk to you soon,

Kisses, Rita