Be you

Hi everyone! J

Today I feel like giving some advice, they might not fit you and your situation right know but I hopefully I can help some of you now or in a few years you might remember these thoughts.

The thing, I mean the topic of these post, is happiness, calm down, no I have no magic spell or a perfect formula to achieve it, I do how ever have some tricks that really helped me be happier. I cannot say I’m the happiest person alive but I sure am better than a year ago, I am also not an expert in happiness, but anyways, here is my advice to all of your beautiful souls.

First, if you are not happy with something in your life change it. I know, I know, easier said than done, and don’t get me wrong, it’s REALLY not some easy breezy stuff, it’s hard but helps a lot, believe me! If you are not happy with a person, with your relationship, being a friendship or a more romantic situation, and if you’re sure you’ll be better off without them in your life just cut the strings. I don’t mean immediately stop talking to them or anything, if you see you can’t work things out, if you tried and everything is the same as before, just slowly get some space from them, get some distance. If they miss you and if you’re that important to them eventually they’ll notice it and will do something to get you back, if not, just proves you've made the right decision. If you’re not happy with your diet or your room or your style, change it, you are the only one who can give you true confidence in yourself and open your door for happiness. Be brave and change your life, the things and the persons that surround you influence and can change the way you’re felling, so surround yourself of people that help you and make you happy and things that make you happy.

Other thing you have to learn is to be yourself, know what you like and what you don’t like, what you do and what you don’t do and don’t let people influence you to do things you really don’t want. Not like if you don’t enjoy being out side, never go outside, it’s not that extreme, YOU HAVE TO SOCIALIZE SOMETIMES and be around other thing other than your computer and the internet (for more wonderful that  world is, is not real, or at least, not as real as the real one).

The ultimate idea I want to pass you is that, and I’m going to quote Zoella now, is just say yes, but know how to say no sometimes. I mean don’t lose opportunities just because it’s easier to seat back at home and be alone (I’m not promoting isolation here!) but know when you really don’t want to do something and just don’t do it, or do it the few a few times to see if you've changed and after all enjoy it.

I know these are not easy and quick steps to take, but I believe they help a lot, and always remember to take your time until you feel comfortable enough to take them because if you’re not prepare to cut someone off your life you will go back to them and feel bad again.

And if you think this is a lot of crap and it doesn't work, or just don’t like my ideas, that’s fine, we are all different human being and have different ways to see things. These are some things that helped me, I hope and would be thrilled if they help some or just one of you, but if not I’m really sorry I couldn't help.

Talk to you soon,

Kisses, Rita 

First month impressions

 Hello people of the world!

So, I’ve been in Salamanca for a bit more than a moth now and I thought I would share some of the things I’ve noticed that are different/weird, many of them I haven’t really decide if I enjoy or not and some of my experience so far.

Let’s start with academic (that are not that academic but I only noticed in uni) stuff. Here, the students treat the professors for their first name, there’s no mr., mrs. or miss, I find it really strange because in Portugal would be an extreme offence to the professor I was really chocked when I heard a guy call one of our teachers that is a little bit older by just Javier, and to be fair I´m not yet used to it… Is it normal in other countries? Please, enlighten me.

Other weird, but that oh so nice, habit here is the siesta (kind of the same as nap) from 2 p.m. to 4/5 p.m. almost all of the stores are closed and everyone (almost) just sleeps in those hours… Although it’s really nice to have “permission” to take a nap it is not that good when you have stuff to do. But we haply live with that dilemma ahahah.

Third thing that I find really cool, everyone has piercings or tattoos. It’s so common seeing a person (I’m talking about young people) with they’re nose, eyebrow or lip pierced that it becomes the normal pattern. It’s really nice to see that in other countries if you have an alternative style people won’t judge you for it, or at least not so much, in Portugal many people don’t get a tattoo or a piercing because it can affect them on the hunt for jobs, it’s just not very acceptable there yet, but we’ll get there!

Extremely good thing, you don’t have to pay to enter in the bars or in the clubs, only if there’s a private party! These, for me, is the best because I really don’t drink much and I hate having to pay to enter somewhere that I don’t know if I  like and if I pay I feel obligate to be there for a while even if I hate the place. So 100 points for Salamanca bars!

                                   

And I think that concludes my list of different/weird stuff.

I just want to really quickly  say that I’m loving it here, the city is beautiful and there’s always so much to do (although I haven’t done much, but the fact that are so many  possibilities  pleases me a lot!) and the all experience of living alone, having to go grocery shop and decide what you really need and want, cooking for yourself is in fact a bless because you can always eat what you craving and if you don’t feel like doing anything you can just eat a bowl o cereal and no one will nag  you about it, even the cleaning part I’m loving! It’s just making me feel all grown up and responsible, I love it.

Hope you enjoyed it! 

Kisses, Rita J

The Introduction

Hello, Hi, Holla, Oi to you, people of the internet and specially the blogs!

I'm a girl, a 20 year old, portuguese girl named Rita who is currently in Salamanca thanks to the Erasmus Programme.
I've been wanting to start a blog for a couple of years know, but I just didn't had the courage or any idea of what I could possible talk about which I'm steel not sure of but I’ve finally got the guts and a motive to do it.

I'm away from home for the first time, I'll be leaving alone (well, not alone, with more 2 friends, but without my parents) for the next six months and I want to remember this forever, so know I have a adventure to share and it’s something I want to remember forever, so there’s a reason to start this blog. 

Just for notice, I'm not only going to document this new chapter but also be doing some posts talking about some stuff I might be thinking and things I love such as fashion, make-up, travel... We’ll see what I come up with ahah.
Anyway I just wanted to do a little introduction about myself and (kind of) what this blog will be about.
Really ope you'll (whoever reads this) enjoy it and comes along with me in my journey!

Kisses, Rita J